My workshops and retreats are alive and fun. Active engagement is essential for your brain and body to learn and transform.
The key is to receive your own wisdom in your own body. The structures I provide are geared for this. Modalities include small groups, breathwork, movement, touch, speaking, dialog, and meditation.
Everything offered in any of my workshops or retreats is an optional invitation. “No” is a sacred word. No questions asked. Sometimes the choice to pass is exactly what is most needed.
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Awakened Leadership Retreat
Awakened Leadership starts within each of us. It involves deep listening, and a willingness to drop our agenda and focus on what is needed. At this 7-day retreat in Ubud, Bali we focus on embodying inner authority and deep presence.
My Approach to Workshops and Retreats
The paradox of safety
A key focus in my work is safety. If you don’t feel safe, it will be harder to take the risks that will ultimately nurture you. Without physical and emotional safety, trauma can be re-stimulated, rather than released and healed. We make changes one step at a time. The key is the size and the timing of the steps.
The tender edge
I invite all participants to assume that every person present is on their “tender edge.” This allows us to soften, as we hold each other in kindness and open hearts. It also adds to the sense of safety in the room.
In order to grow, you have to expand your comfort zone. In order to do this, you need to feel uncomfortable. The key is to find the sweet spot- where you are anchored in safety as you step into the unknown at the same time. In this sweet spot, discomfort can become excitement and curiosity. If you go too far out of your comfort zone, you can create a sling shot experience, where you might have a cathartic expansion, only to be followed later by an equal contraction, as your system won’t know how to gently integrate the change. This “hamster wheel experience” happens all too often in workshops and sessions when the facilitator or participant pushes too hard, thinking that big expressions are evidence of good work.
Trauma is stored in the body. When in trauma, we feel alone. Simply being witnessed by one who is present, can begin to release trauma, as it doesn’t know how to survive in the presence of love.
Slow is a good thing
We release trauma slowly, gently, so that the changes are real and digestible. The revelation of accessing trauma is followed by affirmation- we receive appreciation, grounding and nurturing, often in the form of safe touch, holding, breathing, allowing. The body and the heart have their own language and timing, and the mind is often trying too hard and too fast for change, in order to get rid of the pain or discomfort. But the heart and the body know the pace that’s needed. So we slow down and listen to the body first and foremost.
Pleasure can be a powerful healer. When we feel safe and held and in physical pleasure (there is no sexual activity in my work, and clothes are always on), we can remember our sovereignty and beauty and wholeness, easily, without having to jump through hoops and hold our breath and slay dragons. Pleasure, and the oxytocin that follows, can be what’s needed to help us drop our defenses and sink into wholeness. Think of a baby being held by its mother. The two simply be together, and that is often enough to regulate the baby’s nervous system.